we're discussing about all men in general
- most guys just don't like to talk. They think that talking are for pussies or girls. They are rarely emotionally open and do not normally discuss feelings with you unless they feel very comfortable with you or has known you for quite some time. Men are inherently close in their feelings to maintain their belief of control. So, in most relationships, girls should do more talking than guys. But this doesn't mean you are in control.
- be prepared for a little territorial behavior. Men tend to be territorial and jealous (even girls are like that). This does not mean that he's suspicious you. If you show any attention to another guy, they get slight uneasy feelings; this is a biological feeling. He will definitely not be in a good mood if he sees you flirting with another male. Flirting means say nice things, compliment him, touch him or he touches you anywhere. He may not punch the guy in the face but he'll go from 'I love you so much' to 'I'd rather be sitting on the sofa watching football and not dealing with this'.
- know that most guys feel the need to be in charge (even when they aren't). Men want to feel as though they are in control. They need to feel that things won't happen unless they allow them to. No matter how much you feel that you shouldn't have to get the 'OK' from him, it would still be best to at least talk to him about it and ask him first. Basically, they want to feel that they are doing things because they want their partner to be happy, not because they have to do it. Men respond better with 'lips' and big eyes than they do orders. 'bermanja-manja' with him if you want to get your way at times.
- Let men be a man. Guys want to be manly. It boosts their confidence and makes them feel big and strong. Always remember... You are weak and he is strong. Allow him to take care of you and protect you. If your man doesn't get it.. Just tell him straight. "I feel safe when I'm around you", "Your arms are huge. I feel protected". It'll make him happy. Trust me.
- Be prepared to be touched. Guys like physical contact (no doubt). They have high hormone levels, so they may find find a number of different physical contact enjoyable. They won't always be able to figure out what's an 'ok' and what's a no-no. It is important that they are told what they should and shouldn't do. Their feelings will not be hurt but will be a relief so he knows the boundaries. You'll even gain respect from him. Don't think 'he'll figure it out'. Don't give him signals (although the biting of the lower lip is a universal known as the 'kiss me' sign), tell him verbally.
- Guys dig girls that can cook. Saying something like "I want to be single for the rest of my life" will kill it fast. Prove to him that you can be an excellent wife and he will prove that he can be a good husband as well.
- Men will call girls 'hot' if they are thinking of them sexually but will call them 'pretty' or 'beautiful' if they have more innocent intentions. This applies very little but can be an extra hint.
- Guys can have obsession over your eyes, hair, hands, other random body parts, etc. It is weird, but deal with it. If he likes it when you do something with your hair, then do it a lot. If he gave you a ring or anything to wear, then wear it every time you're with him. He'll feel that you are only his and that you cherish him. Give him a kiss and remind him how much you like it. He'll then know you appreciate the things he gives.
- Guys rarely mind feeling like they're owned (they secretly like it sometimes). A simple way to show him this is to hold his hands with both your hands, and wrapping your arms around his. The idea of you hanging off them isn't an unpleasant one to guys. This is different from being clingy, so don't worry. One shows that you're completely devoted to him, the other is annoying him. You can tell straight away what he feels.
- Guys like to know that you feel grateful to be with him. He'll return the favor a hundred times over. Surprise him with small things from time to time. He'll feel appreciated. If you make him feel that he isn't good enough, he will be more jealous of other guys - he may leave you. Guys don't like feeling inferior any more than girls.
- If he had a bad day, give him a neck rub or massage (to let him know that you're there for him). Don't ask him if he wants it, just do it to him. If he likes it, he won't ask you to stop. But if he needs his space, just let him be. Check in on him once in a while. And say somethings nice to him. Just randomly say how much you love and appreciate him. Don't ask him why he had a bad day yet. When he feels better he'll automatically tell you.
- Guys enjoy the touch of female, very soft and pleasant. As the fifth rule says, guys don't mind touching. Put your hand on his face. Even when he's driving, rub his thighs, touch his face, run your fingers up and down his arms and hold his hand against your chest or face.
- Don't check other guys out. Just control a little when you're with him. Even when a hot guy walk pass you, don't look (walk straight) or just lock your eyes on your boyfriend.
- Maintaining the relationship is very important. The first few months will be easier; you're in the heat of the relationship. Don't fall under the false impression that you don't have to put forth anything. He will get bored or feel unappreciated. Remember what it was like in the beginning, when you'd both do anything for each other. Keep that mindset. Treat him like someone who can't be lost.
- Let him know that you will stick with him through anything - and mean it! Tell him you will never leave his side. He will like that. Never give him the 'thin ice' feeling to get your way. Don't ever mention about breaking up. Guys don't like it. Like tell him to deal with it and don't make it seem like you'll break up with him over something unless he complies. Using the relationship as a threat will really make him pissed, and may break up with you for doing it.
Try it out. It certainly helps.
xoxo
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